than to feel that they are joined for life:
to strengthen each other in all labor,
to rest on each other in all sorrow,
to minister to each other in all pain,
to be one with each other
in silent unspeakable memories.
In today’s world, many forces seek to pull us apart, and yet our promises and pledges bind us together. Faith communities can play a helpful and necessary role in supporting God’s people in keeping covenants of all kinds. To this end, Holy Cross offers
- Pre-marital counseling for weddings officiated by our clergy
- Christian weddings
- Interfaith weddings
Weddings can take place at the church or in a different venue. It is helpful to have at least four months to plan appropriately. However, in cases where time is limited (i.e., a military deployment is imminent, or when one or more of the married couple is terminally ill), the Vicar will try to make arrangements to meet the couple’s needs.
While personalized vows are welcome, the language of the wedding itself conforms to the Episcopal Book of Common Prayer.
In the Name of God, I, _________, take you, ________, to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.
Depending on the couple’s wishes and needs, the language can be adapted appropriately.
The Episcopal Church supports remarriage after divorce. In the case of remarriage after one or more of the couple have been previously divorced, at least six months is required for the priest to meet with the couple, and to seek consent from the bishop of the Episcopal Diocese of San Diego to officiate at the wedding.
Wedding Vow Renewal
Each Sunday during worship, we invite any couples celebrating a wedding anniversary to come forward for a prayer of blessing.
On or near Valentine’s Day, we gather as a community, inviting married couples from the church and greater community to renew their wedding vows in a warm and informal setting. The clergy guide each couple individually in renewing their wedding vows according to a simple form, followed by a blessing. This is a come and go event that usually takes less than one hour.
At milestones of married life, custom services are also available. It is helpful to have at least two months to plan for a wedding vow renewal. However, in cases where time is limited (i.e., a military deployment is imminent or one or more of the married couple is terminally ill), the Vicar will work to meet the couple’s needs.
For more information, please contact the Vicar.